Parents and Other Caregivers
Parents are adults who assume the care of children long-term. There is an assumption that a male-female couple who have sex and produce children are the natural parents. A further assumption is that the two biological parents will sustain a home until their children become independent adults. A model of altruistic love is parental devotion to children. The ideal mother is deeply bonded to her children, is self-sacrificing and unusually attentive to the needs of her children. While romantic love briefly contains elements of maternal love and may lead to marriage, pregnancy and life-together, the biological basis appears to be short-lived leaving the bonded couple in need of other motivations and constraints to sustain their relationship.
Many different combinations of adults, however, act as parents. Unlucky children experience unstable homes and may have a succession of adults who fulfill parental roles. Children are remarkably adaptable and thrive as long as they live with caring adults who provide guidance, support, love and the right food to eat. All parents are adults who have changing roles and responsibilities as children grow and develop. Smart parents assume they are a work in progress and are willing to learn and develop with their children. Parents are teachers. Children are teachers.
Parents are generous people who sacrifice personal goals and pleasures in favor of caring for their children. Good parents provide resources that their children need in a strategic and judicious manner so their children grow into self-reliant adults with responsibilities, careers and incomes. Parents can guide their children by feeding them the correct food and by selecting the best community, the best peer group and the best schools they can identify and afford.
Human narcissism begins with birth and infants are relentless in their demands. They cry and scream when they are dissatisfied and each infant has no doubt that he or she is the center of the universe. A good parent supports this innate narcissism to build basic warmth and confidence in the child As the child matures, the excellent parent guides him or her toward a more social and tolerant attitude towards others. The excellent parent does not threaten or hit a child; conflict is resolved by negotiation, humor and affection. An excellent parent encourages social interaction with other children but is watchful and discriminating about the company the child keeps.
The transformation of narcissistic preoccupation of the young child into a more social and caring older child is critical to the future ability of the child to live a successful and happy life as an adult
There are different ideas about child-rearing. The range is from strict authoritarian approaches to nurturing and permissive approaches that encourage self determination and creativity. An excellent parent knows that error is inevitable and all learning involves mistakes. We have assembled information to help you make the best decisions for children in your care.
There are many ways for food problems to interfere with a child's normal
functioning and to promote disease. We assume that several problems
interact in a complex manner to produce the symptoms and dysfunction that we
seek to remedy.